Broken Hearted: It Hurts. Help Me Out.

October 4, 2013 4:39PM

A lot of people are dealing with these kinds of feelings. Most of us are still seeking of an answer, a solution, even a cure. But come to think of it, is there any a right method or treatment for a broken heart?

Love is defined by different words and phrases. Each one of us has different beliefs and definitions of love. Love is so powerful and great. You can do crazy stuffs that you never even imagine you are capable of doing so. We give a lot when we were in love. We think of the person is special to us and forgot to keep a little for ourselves. We are willing to do anything for love.

It is very wonderful. It feels heaven. Yet in return, when we got hurt, we really feel the worst feeling we could ever feel. The heartaches can make us ill. It makes us disable to do our usual habits. It makes us weak and incapable.

I’ve been reading several articles, even tries many of them, how to move on, how to deal with a broken heart, how to ease the pain, how to forget the person who hurt you, how to cure and heal the wound inside and many more.

As an ordinary people, I love and got hurt too. I am as desperate as others to find answers to those damn thoughts I’ve been dealing, and I’m still a one person who keeps on finding if there’s any pattern or methods on how to get these feeling out of my world. So as I search and browse the internet, I’ve collaborate all these things I think could help us, even just to lessen the crazy feeling were holding inside.

Things You Could Do To Lessen the Pain

1. Join an organization –believe me, when I say join, make it really real. Do some stuffs you never been try to do. Jump to different world, make new friends. Have some time to meet new people that won’t remind you the person you once love.
2. Keep yourself busy –well, these thing won’t work in my case, but may be possible to other people. Do the house chores. Cut the grass in the garden. Study your lessons in Calculus. Paint a masterpiece. You can do anything you want. Just try not to harm yourself, ‘kay?
3. Make new friends – yeah, I’ve mentioned that you could join organization or a club for a change, but meeting new friends might help you a lot. You see, those people you had once were actually the big reminder of the person you wanna forget. These people might be your good buddies for so long, but letting yourself away from them for awhile might help. You just gotta explain to them nicely so they won’t be offended.
4. Drink a little –oh jeez! For those people who keep on saying that drinking won’t help you, that is not actually true! You can forget them, those gals you wanna forget, but unfortunately, just for awhile. It helped you, c’mon. Drinking a bottle of liquor won’t kill you. You could try it for once. Hehe.
5. Date someone –I’m not saying here to look for someone then jump to him for a rebound thing. No. Using someone to totally forget the old one is wrong. But you’re also allowed to meet new character to make yourself realize that there still a hope after that failed relationship.
6. Beautify yourself girl! –for general, trying to fix and pick up you from the senti mode is kinda hard. Yeah. We cry a lot, we rather stay in bed the whole day with all your windows close, we want to feel alone. But hey! You gotta cheer up. Go, move forward. You don’t actually have to be very ok, because its really hard, I know, but at least make some moves to make yourself presentable. Better if you go face the mirror and notice that you’re making yourself look older. Being beautiful and presentable enough can gain you confidence to move on. Go girl!
7. Go home, feel your family –I am very fortunate that I see my family as a friend. Just like to any other people, our family is the greatest gift we could ever have. You see, when in times of grief, you will always find yourself being in your family. You don’t have to tell them words by words what is really running in your brain. The least thing you could do is to spend time with them. Laugh and talk with them. You’ll feel a lot better.
8. Let’s exercise –yey! I’ve tried it so many times. And yeah. It help, getting fit will lift up your emotions. Who knows, your ex might regret hurting you when he see you sexier. 
9. Cry, cry and cry –there’s nothing wrong about crying. It will help you a lot. Go, let your tears fall, feel the pain, cry all your hatred and grief. Then after you cry, tell yourself that everything’s gonna be alright, even you think it will take you so long to be really ok.
10. Pray –we all have faith in our Almighty God. Let’s surrender all our loneliness and sorrows to Him. God will always have a better plan for all of us. He will provide. You know that.

These things are just actually based on what I’ve learned by reading and personal experiences. Being broken hearted is not a bad thing. You feel the pain because you love truly. You are actually being proud of it. All of us will eventually realize that life is more exciting after you surpass these trials. Be brave, stay pretty and love will find you again, maybe for real, ayt?